Marriage… - Part 2
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”
1. Trust is a Must.
A strange thing happened when Adam and Eve sinned, they became self preservationist. Sin makes you think about yourself and how everything effects you. Adam blamed Eve, Eve blamed the serpent. You will never be able to have a real worthwhile disagreement that brings the best out of both of you if you can’t trust each other.
2. Your Spouse has Become the Problem.
Eve will now experience painful childbirth because of Adam and Adam will experience painful fruitless work because of Eve. Sin destroyed the natural unity in marriage. We now have to fight for it.
3. Submission is the Key.
James 4:7-10 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
When we get the vertical right we will get the fight right. We need to fight for not with. When we submit our individual wills to God we can have disagreements that actually serve to bring us closer to each other and Him.
Connect Group Questions
- How will distrust in a relationship make disagreements impossible?
- Was it shocking to you how fast sin made Adam and Eve self preservationist? Give an example of what that looks like today.
- How is avoiding conflict ultimately an act of selfishness?
- How did the curse effect the marriage relationship?
- What happens when we willfully submit our desires to God?
- How will submission to God positively effect our relationships?