So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
1. Anger is real.
Anger is a real emotion. God gets angry Jesus was angry. If you say you never get angry you are probably confusing a product of anger with the emotion. Anger is an emotion that impacts everyone.
2. Anger doesn’t have to look the same to be sin.
If your anger doesn’t look like rage, you’re not off the hook. Stonewalling is just as controlling as yelling only you think you’re getting away with it. Anger turns to sin because of the “why.” The wrong why will produce the same sinful results.
3. Why are you angry?
“In your anger do not sin”:Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
I realize I’m getting angry
I begin to rationalize the emotion
After I rationalize the emotion I act on it.
I continue to be angry because I got reinforcement from the person
I was talking to.
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
I stay angry until I ultimately do something.
Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
Jesus had a righteous anger because of the way people were treating the temple.
I rarely experience righteous anger. Here is what my anger typically looks like.
James 4:1-3 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
The litmus test is whether I am angry because I am not getting something or am I angry about the effects of sin?
4. Use the filter.
If it’s me not getting what I want, I need to realize that type of anger is actually targeted toward God since he is directing my steps and providing for my needs.
Recognize the emotion.
Do not automatically justify it.
Redirect your thoughts to a constructive outcome.
Don’t let it stay. Once you have decided what to do, drop the emotion.
If this is righteous anger, do something about it! Take action. Don’t sit by idly and act mad without any action.